Here’s the deal. Ten years ago, today, Tom asked me out. I was 3 weeks away from turning 15, he was 15 1/2, and we’ve been together ever since. (I just threw in the ages because he hates being reminded that he’s older than me. Usually, I’m sweet to him, but sometimes I’m sassy like that.)
I gotta say, it’s been a decade of awesomeness. We’ve had our ups and downs, mostly ups, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I love that I’ve never been picked up and taken out on a date by anyone else (well…except my dad when I was little, but that’s way different). I love that I got to date my best friend. I love that we grew up together, so we just get all those little weird habits, embarrassing family members (sorry, Ben, ha), and funny stories. We have so many nicknames that we sometimes forget how they started, and we know all about each other’s “dating past” because it all occurred before the end of 9th grade when we started “going out.” (I wasn’t really allowed to date until I was 16, even though Tom could drive for 6 months before that birthday came around. Did I mention that?)
Here are 10 things (since it’s been 10 years) you might not know about us:
1. Tom used to have the nickname Tricky T, and I have been known to answer to Sizzles.
2. We got Saturday detention when we were in 10th grade for PDA at school. (oops.) Now we aren’t very big into public displays of affection. I mean, we’ll hold hands until they get hot and sweaty. And we hug in public, sometimes. But if you make out in front of us, we will make fun of you. Please don’t be that person walking around in public with your hand stuffed in your significant other’s back pocket. That’s the worst.
3. One thing we have in common but wish we didn’t: Both of us grew up without knowing our grandfathers. Tom’s mom’s dad passed away before he was born, and his dad’s dad died shorty after Tom’s first birthday. My mom’s dad died before I was born, and my dad’s dad passed when I was three.
4. With the exception of John Mayer, we’ve only been to punk rock concerts together. We’ve met MXPX and Relient K.
5. On roadtrips, we try to think of random things about ourselves that the other doesn’t know and share it.
6. We saw so many horror movies together with our friends one summer that I can’t watch them anymore, much to Tom’s dismay.
7. We used to think we would get married on May 19th, 2007 so we could keep our same anniversary date, but having different graduation dates made that impossible. I was a bridesmaid in one of my best friend’s weddings that day instead. Happy anniversary Esther and Ben!
8. I am a night owl, and Tom is an early bird. We compromise during the week, but on the weekends, I stay up a bit later sometimes and almost always sleep in later in the morning.
9. In order for us to be fully awake in the morning, Tom needs coffee, and I need a shower.
10. Although we mostly overlap in our musical preferences, Tom likes old-school country and hard rock, which I only like some of, and I like Disney music and some pop and most modern country (country that has come out in the last 18 years or so) , of which Tom appreciates very little.
To celebrate being together 10 years, Tom and I have been kind of having a “throwback” week to the last ten years. We’ve been listening to music from way back then, I had Tom play Nothing Else Matters by Metallica on his guitar for me because that was our song in high school (no, I’m not kidding), and tonight, we’re watching Remember The Titans and eating hoagies.
I know the last part of that sentence must sound weird. Here’s why we’re doing that. When we were in high school, I introduced Tom to the best place to get hoagies in Georgia, Little Phillies. It’s this tiny dive in Covington that has as much room for pool tables as for seating. They make the sandwiches and fries right behind where they take your order, so you see them making it fresh. I always got a Hot Ham n’ Cheese with mayo, no veggies, extra cheese. (Super healthy, right? Somehow I could do that and not gain weight back then.) And Tom always got a philly cheese steak with no veggies and extra cheese. Sometimes with mayo.
Right around the time I introduced him to this restaurant, Remember the Titans came out on DVD. Now, we both liked that movie, so one night when his parents had gotten the movie, we picked up Little Phillies, headed over to his parents’ house, and watched the movie while we ate. Apparently Tom REALLY loves that movie and REALLY loved his sandwich, because, I kid you not, EVERY SINGLE DATE for the next THREE MONTHS that is what he wanted to do. I finally said, “If I eat from Little Phillies again or watch that movie one more time, so help me, I will puke. We ARE going to do something else this Friday night.” Tom seemed surprised. I really think he had no idea how many times we had repeated that date. I didn’t watch that movie for years afterwards. Which is kind of sad, because it’s a great movie.
Anyway, at the risk of Tom relapsing into his old ways, I thought it would be funny to watch that movie and eat hoagies as our “date” on the day that we have been together for ten years.
We are also going to do one more thing. It’s kind of a time capsule. I am going to print out a picture of us from ten years ago and one from us now. Then, we are going to write letters to ourselves in ten years. We are also going to make predictions of how we think our lives will be in 10 years. We aren’t allowed to look at each other’s letters or predictions for ten years. All of this will go into something that will keep dirt, dust, water, and bugs out (probably a gladware container, ha), and it will be stored in the attic for the next ten years. Then we’ll pull it out and see whose prediction was most accurate.
We went from this:
(That’s about as close to making out in public as we’re gonna get. You’re welcome.)
(Oh, and our friend Jay took that last picture. More on that later. Again.)
I don’t want to wait ten years to hear some predictions. Patience is a virtue I’m still learning. I would love to hear what your predictions for us in 10 years will be. Feel free to be as silly or serious as you would like. I just think it would be funny to hear what y’all think will happen to our lives. So please, predict away!