I have a quick question for you.
Do you share passwords with your spouse? Friends? Parents? Siblings? Boyfriend? Girlfriend?
Why or why not?
I’m just curious. I’ve heard a plethora of different reasons. But I want to know yours.
Tom and I have a password that we both use as our family password. Only the two of us know it. We use it for online banking and for different accounts we might have like amazon or netflix or the coupon sites I have joined. I also use it for my computer, for twitter, and for my blog. (So if you ever see something out of character pop up, you know Tom is in my account, messing with my stuff.)
Tom has a different password for his computer, which I also know. In fact, Tom has an entire notebook that is basically “a widow’s guide to survival.” It might sound morbid, but basically, if something should happen to Tom, I’ll have this notebook full of accounts and passwords and who to pay what, etc. He even put in our online Pizza Hut information. That’s how I know he really loves me. Because he knows how much I love pizza.
So I think he probably also has the password to his email account and facebook account in there. I should probably write mine down too. I’ve told it to him before, but only because I needed him to check something for me. I don’t know if he remembers it.
Funnily enough, Facebook and email are the two areas that seem to have people (couples, especially) in the widest variety of “trust” situations. There are some couples, like me and Tom, who don’t really care if the other has their password, but who also don’t really know each others’ passwords. Here’s why: We don’t have anything to hide, unless we’re talking about each other’s birthday or Christmas presents or planning a surprise party. But, we also don’t feel the need to check on each other. I don’t feel like I need to browse through Tom’s facebook account or email. And vice versa. If someone were to send me some message that was out of line, he’s the first person I’m going to tell. And he does the same. So that leaves us with no “why did you keep that from me?” situations. Therefore, if I need him to check my email or-for some reason-facebook for me, he can. But typically, it’s not something we really even think about.
I’ve also seen the growing trend of a couple sharing a Facebook account. I haven’t asked anyone who does this why they do it, yet. It could be accountability-knowing who is messaging their spouse and what events are going on. It could be that neither uses Facebook that often, so they just share an account. I don’t know.
Then there are the stories we have all heard where the person you’ve shared your password with has gone into your account and started to snoop around or to even mess with your account. Examples would be a mom who checks her child’s messages (to some extent, I totally get this), and the girlfriend/wife/whatever who “de-friends” a female facebook friend of her boyfriend’s/husband’s/whatever or else he does that to her.
There are SO many ways that people handle passwords. So many reasons why. What are yours?