So Loved The World

There are some days when I see so much hurt, so much pain, and I am reminded of God’s love for us.

I know that sounds weird. Most people wonder how God could let death, pain, suffering, and all of those ugly things happen. I see it as a consequence of sin in this world. It’s not that I believe that we get cancer or lose loved ones before their time or have suffering of the innocent because they are sinners and deserve it.

It’s that God gave us a perfect world. There was absolutely no suffering or death in it. And then sin entered. Everything changed for the worse, and we still pay the price and yet continue to add our own wrong-doings into the fray.

We desperately need someone big and strong and overflowing with love for us to come in and save the day- to save us from ourselves. That is where I see God in the suffering.

I honestly don’t know how people who don’t accept that there is more than this life keep putting one foot in front of the other. I would probably sink into misery if I didn’t know that this earthly life was just a prelude to something much greater, especially when the hardships arise.

This weekend, some people I am friends with lost a child. They were told at their 12 week check up that the baby would miscarry. But he didn’t. He kept fighting. He made it until about 5 months.

It just breaks my heart into pieces. They are living through one of my greatest fears. I have begged God that when Tom and I have children, He never asks us to walk through something like this. And now I’m watching them go through it with a front row ticket to their day-to-day lives and the pain this causes them.

The feeling of helplessness is overwhelming. There is nothing they could have done. And there is nothing any of those of us who care for them can do to ease the pain. We love them and we pray for them, but that doesn’t take it away.

And then, in the midst of all the heartache, there is a stinging reminder that this is a fraction of the pain God felt when he sent Jesus to us that first Christmas day, thousands of years ago. The choice to send your child to live and die to save a world that hates you despite your great love for them…it’s unbelievable.

Yet because of it, I have hope in something more. And I know that sweet little Finn will be reunited with his parents in heaven, someday.

Love Always Wins.


For God so loved the world, that He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16

9 thoughts on “So Loved The World”

  1. This is pretty much the only reason that I am able to handle life/death situations when they arise. I am sorry about your friends. It is definitely something really hard to go through. This has been a tough Christmas for a lot of people this year.

    1. I know that each Christmas there are so many people suffering. I used to see it as the worst time of year to have something tragic happen, but now I wonder if it’s not the best. Right in the middle of going through something hard, we are reminded that Christ came to save us from the hardships of this life.

      1. Every hardship I’ve ever been through has made a much stronger person, made me face opportunities, people, and myself in ways that were cathartic, so in general I tend to believe there’s a purpose for it all in terms of my personal growth, but not everyone feels that way or knows God cares for them that personally. For those who don’t have that, which is a great many, it’s a season that’s extra rough since everything around them is constantly trying to remind them how awesome Christmas is for people with whole families, caring friends, good health and enough money when it’s totally sucking for them and they have no answers as to why they have to endure these hardships. I think that’s the reason the rates of suicide and attempted suicide skyrocket during this season. So I’m not sure if it’s the ‘best’ time to have problems, but a time of suffering is a good time to take note of God.

        I guess that’s where our great commission is, to be there with the people who have no Jesus, to let them know that God has a plan for them that is a rescue from the world of sorrow and a straight path in a world of plenty, too.

        1. I totally agree that not everyone has that knowledge or faith so for them it would be awful. I think for me that facing Christmas without Tom would be about impossible even with faith, so I get it. I just think that Christmas is also (for those who believe) a strong reminder of God’s love for us.

  2. Every woman who has a desire to have a baby has the exact same prayer that you have. We all have worries. As a young child from about the age of 5 I used to pray that God would let me meet my kids. Once I became pregnant I prayed every night for their safe arrival. I have experienced both miracles and tragedies surrounding pregnancies. I still miss my friend Melanie. I may write about my experiences one day if I can get a blog started. Please don’t let this discourage you from trying to have a baby when you are ready. I hope that your friends are not discouraged from trying again one day unless the doctors have a different opinion for them. God is amazing and amazing things can arise from tragedies. I have seen that first hand. I will pray for your friends. I will pray that they can find comfort and peace.

    1. Thank you! I have been amazed as I’ve watched them walk through this in a way that is honoring to God. They know that He has a perfect plan and that they won’t understand it right now but can choose to trust it right now anyway. It’s such a testament to the love of God and “peace that surpasses all understanding.” I don’t know if I could grieve without any blame or anger at God the way they seem to handle it, but seeing them go through this has just been horribly sad and very encouraging at the same time, if that makes any sense. “My grace will be sufficient” has played out in this really difficult time in their lives.

  3. I am sorry for your friends. I had a miscarriage in Sept at 13 weeks and it was definitely one of the hardest things I had been through and I cannot imagine how hard it is so much further along but God gave me a peace that I know only can come from him. I will be praying for your friends that God will give them a peace and that he will heal your friend quickly.

    1. Mariah, I’m so sorry. How very heartbreaking for you and Jason. I’m so glad that you feel God loving you and giving you supernatural peace at such a hard time.

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